Marriage is the start of a new chapter in your life. It’s full of love, excitement, and a smidgen of stress because you’ll be bidding farewell to your single status. You can no longer be a free bird and hang out with your buddies anytime you wish. There will be certain limitations, no matter how tiny or large they are. Even if your husband is exceedingly encouraging and helpful, life in the in-laws’ house will not be the same. So prepare for the impending storm. Here are five things that any girl should know before joyously saying yes!
- Nothing is “Perfect”
One of the most common mistakes people make in marriage is that most of us want to change the other person by molding them into our notion of “perfection,” whether that change is physical or psychological. Instead, we should embrace our spouse for who they are and work with and around them to enhance each other as a team.
- Respect goes both ways
Mutual respect is holding someone in high regard for their ideals, talents, and skills, embracing their way of doing things, and just allowing them to be themselves in their personal and professional life. Respect your partner by fully embracing them, as well as their emotional and psychological boundaries, but never losing sight of your goals in the connection.
- Value Partnership
Partnership is highly valued. You’re in trouble if this isn’t a high value for both of you. It’s a red flag if you have a lot of “deal breakers” or if you say to yourself, “Should I stay or should I go?” every time there’s an issue. If you’re both devoted to solving problems and see all challenges as shared problems, your marriage will have a better chance of succeeding.
- Communication is the key
Consistently communicate, and communicate about everything. If you have a huge secret in your life that you don’t want to share with your spouse (a fetish, a crime you committed, a buddy you betrayed), it will almost certainly lead to troubles in the future. Now is the time to get it out in the open and create a foundation of honesty.
Friendship is important. Don’t marry a stranger and hope that you’ll get along in time. Begin with a strong foundation of love, shared beliefs, similar interests, and mutual trust.